Why is Life Such a Struggle?

We feel you dear one, and know your confusion about life.  Seems whichever direction you go ends in defeat.  You are a people pleaser, always have been you know.  And though your kindness does come back in your direction (really it does), your happiness is being attacked.  And what is there in life other than happiness?  Everything everyone wants, everything everyone does, is all for happiness.  Even when we are mean to each other, we think, ‘Well, this will make me happy’.  The problem is, in general people are lousy at choosing the direction to become happy.  And you, dear one are within that general population.

This being said, we want you to know that you make yourself sad in order to receive the will to step outside your own comfort zone to finally say, ‘I Matter!  I have a say-so in my life/happiness!  I cannot please everyone, but I can please myself!’  We know you hear us, but you block us when you follow up with, ‘But this will hurt their feelings, so I will just put myself second to them.’ 

It is time dear one to take a good look at yourself, because no matter which side you choose, they all hurt at some level.  For you have not figured out how to love thyself, so your messages sent to others are confusing.  If you truly want to help other’s happiness, make yourself happy for any other direction is just a lie to yourself and to them.

Be open to admitting your feelings to those who are hurting, for that opens the door for the others to realize you are struggling also.  In telling them your pain you are able to justify to them (and to yourself) your actions to accept your own happiness… even if this hurts your loved ones.  You see your struggle is related to their struggle, for if they are depending on you to find their own happiness; they are traveling down the wrong road.

~ RoseAngel

Happiness Is Contagious, You Know

What is happiness?  We all take it for granted, you know.  Happiness is what fuels our soul, for we are all meant to be happy.  We forget this, for we tend to focus on what is not, which makes us sad.  The lesson here is so, so simple…. Focus on what brings you joy.

We think it is more important to be responsible than to be happy, we think it is more important to take care of others over ourselves to be happy, we think it is more important to work toward changing what life gives us to experience, in order to be happy and we say WHY?

Why do we give up that which we are here to do in order to do what we think is our obligation?  Step back dear ones, for this does not make sense.  If you give up your own happiness to do what you have been taught is the right thing in life, instead of following your gut feelings – how will you ever know what really works for you?  If you give up your happiness to help others – what are you teaching them?  If you give up your own happiness to try to force a different outcome – where is your lesson that helps you move forward in life?  If you give up your happiness for any reason, lesson, responsibility, or for any other person…. Then you have given up your purpose in life, and will never find an outcome that benefits yourself or any other.

You see, you cannot let go of that which makes you happy in order to make another happy.  And this is the only reason you one will ever do that which you think or have been taught is the ‘right’ thing to do.

You see dear one, we are blind if we believe in giving up of the self to assist another, for we all have to experience for ourselves that which we want to change in our lives.  Others cannot change for us, so if you desire to help another – Teach Them By Allowing Them To Experience How You Have Learned What Life Can Be Like To Love Yourself.

What Do You Really Want?

You just want to be happy, we know.  But you do not know how to be happy, so that is where the work begins.  We know the word ‘work’ does not please most of you but it is work in a sense that there is time and focus involved to find what is wanted.

We all want the same things in life, good friends, happy family, successful career, financial abundance, good health and to be liked.  We all think these things will make us happy.  But happiness is not achieved in what we have, but what we want.  For our wanting is where our desires lie.

Let’s think about this for a moment, for we know that we all feel something is achieved, we have reached our goals.  This is where the lesson lies, for our happiness is not so much the end result, but the feeling of the possibility of the achievement.

Think about it dear ones, you can have all the money in the world but if you feel lonely inside you are not happy.  You can have the best of friends but if you lack the finances to pay your bills, you are not happy.  You can have it all, what most are asking for but if you are not healthy, you are not happy.  And seriously, we will not ever have it all for our purpose here is to experience life.

This being said, the answer to what you want, lies in the achieving of what makes you happy.  Do not push aside that which makes you happy by using excuses not to experience them.  Do not think you do not have the time or that you have more important responsibilities for Fun Is Important.  Fun is what is wanted.  Everything you want in life has a fun emotion attached to it, you know.

So next time you are deciding what you want, do not limit yourself to what you think you can achieve or what you want that is good for another loved one, do not limit your wants to your financial situation or your schedule.  For wanting and working toward the achieving of your wants is what life is all about, it is by definition what will make you happy.

We See Things the Way We Want, You Know

 Here we go again; we are either happy or sad and have not figured out that being in between is a better state for then we are not creating that which is not wanted, you know.

When we are sad, we will find things to support our feelings, for being sad is a choice and seeing the good all around us does not confirm our chosen state of mind.  This is why so many now use the term ‘think positive’.  For when you look for the positive in any given situation, it opens a door of choice, and usually a better choice than what you are living at the time.

Being happy is also a choice.  It usually takes more energy to do so since others do not want to see you in your contentment when they are choosing to be sad. 

All we are asking is to be aware of your state of mind and if it does not bring you joy, happiness or even contentment, then choose to change it.  Just focus on one little thing that makes you happy, feel it and then you will feel it dissolve your sadness enough to be open to other happy feelings.

How to choose happiness when you are feeling sad?

You ask this as if it is difficult, dear one and we say it never is.  Happiness is your birthright and not choosing it is a decision and not the other way round.  There is only happiness, though we choose to believe otherwise for various reasons.

We set such high goals and when they do not manifest, we choose to be sad.  When in actuality we should not have given our strength to the thought that we were finished.  Goals are on going, they are always accomplished just may not happen in the time frame planned.  A goal is never failed for it lives inside you and will resurface when it is time to work toward it again. Read more..