Relationships are different to everyone, some are happy, some are sad, some are confusing, some or terrifying, and on, and on. We love to be with others, even when we think we want to just be left alone, for we came here to co-create our stories, you know.
So, why does it seem so hard to get what we want out of a relationship? The first sign should be why are trying to get something out of it, instead of experiencing it for what it is? You see, when you try to control how others act/react, then you are in the middle of a messy situation, for we cannot change anyone other than ourselves.
Why do we as humans think changing others is the solution? More than not, we go after the other to change, usually blaming them for our pain. We think, if you love me, why do you hurt me? And we ask, why are you with someone who hurts? For the answer is not always their doing, you know.
It is so much easier to blame them, because then you dear one have no reason to change. For when you realize the problem lies within you, then you have work to do to be happy. But when the problem lies within them, then you get to be the victim.
We know love is strong, and you fear you will never meet someone like them again, so you do not want to lose them. But we say, if you are unhappy, why do you want to be with someone that brings unhappiness? Why do you think you cannot find someone better, when they do not match your wants and needs?
When you think about it, and figure out what (fear) is keeping you in a relationship where you are not satisfied, it makes more sense. For it always comes down to the Scale of Need. You believe you need something from this person, which is more important than your own happiness. It may be the fear of being alone, or your belief you need their financial support. But we say, when it come to the fear of lack of anything, that these are excuses that keep you from finding the real you. For there is no lack, there is just fear.
It has been said that you never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. This is true dear one; for it is the fear of the unknown that blocks you from seeing your true potential.