Death, No Regrets

Death is a review of life, you know.  When one is faced with their death drawing near, most find peace, for it is a natural part of life.  Some on the other hand, find resistance and fear, for they do not know what is next.  They fear their life on this planet was not used wisely; they find regrets and fight for more time to make changes.

We all get caught up in life and take for granted living, we know.  We sometimes forget how good life can be if we choose to live well.  We fear our lacks and focus on our loss and that then becomes our guidelines of living.  We think things are not possible so we settle for what we know.

Life is workable, achieving great things are possible, change is a choice, so why wait until you are on your death bed to realize this?  Dear ones, we ask that you do not allow your fear to decide your fate, we ask that you take time to live for yourself, take pleasure in your time here, and do that which scares you for when you find yourself at the end of your life, change is difficult.

What Do You Really Want?

You just want to be happy, we know.  But you do not know how to be happy, so that is where the work begins.  We know the word ‘work’ does not please most of you but it is work in a sense that there is time and focus involved to find what is wanted.

We all want the same things in life, good friends, happy family, successful career, financial abundance, good health and to be liked.  We all think these things will make us happy.  But happiness is not achieved in what we have, but what we want.  For our wanting is where our desires lie.

Let’s think about this for a moment, for we know that we all feel something is achieved, we have reached our goals.  This is where the lesson lies, for our happiness is not so much the end result, but the feeling of the possibility of the achievement.

Think about it dear ones, you can have all the money in the world but if you feel lonely inside you are not happy.  You can have the best of friends but if you lack the finances to pay your bills, you are not happy.  You can have it all, what most are asking for but if you are not healthy, you are not happy.  And seriously, we will not ever have it all for our purpose here is to experience life.

This being said, the answer to what you want, lies in the achieving of what makes you happy.  Do not push aside that which makes you happy by using excuses not to experience them.  Do not think you do not have the time or that you have more important responsibilities for Fun Is Important.  Fun is what is wanted.  Everything you want in life has a fun emotion attached to it, you know.

So next time you are deciding what you want, do not limit yourself to what you think you can achieve or what you want that is good for another loved one, do not limit your wants to your financial situation or your schedule.  For wanting and working toward the achieving of your wants is what life is all about, it is by definition what will make you happy.

What Do You Choose In Life?

Doing that which brings you no joy will never enhance your creativity, you know.  For you were not meant to suffer through this life.  You came here to have fun, to experience life and all it has to offer.

Everything you do is a choice, yet sometimes we choose not to believe in ourselves.  Not to embrace our true value as a person.  When this happens, we attract more of the same situations to mirror our beliefs.  Now we find ourselves in a life that is disappointing and our direction keeps following that which supports our beliefs.

We ask of you, dear ones to search for the good in life.  To notice that which you take for granted for once it is gone you will suffer its loss and reinforce your belief of a difficult life.  Instead, see that which is good in life, a roof over your head, a warm dinner or family and friends, and bask in the joy of having these (simple) things.  By doing this you will feel the happiness it brings and in turn you will notice other things that bring this same joy.  Before you know it, you will be attracting more of the same.  You will know life is good because you make it good.  You will know you have options and you will reach for the options that make you happy.

Again, life is choice… choices have feelings, how do you choose to feel?

What is a ‘Little.White.Lie’ Anyway

It has been said that honesty is the best policy, but who follows that?  We all lie, at one time or another we have all told a lie.  We can cover it up calling it a little white lie, a pity lie, tricking or even teasing but in the end it is still a lie.

Others will say they cannot trust someone who lies, but all this means is that they are putting a label on the person they never really trusted in the first place.   For these same people will forgive or cover up lies from others who they want to trust.

The most interesting lie of them all is when you lie to yourselves.  It happens so fast that it is easily (and purposely) forgotten almost immediately.  These lies are the ones in which we hear our inner guidance, but are not ready to change to that outcome, so you tell yourself something to cover it up.

Have you ever had what you call ‘bad luck’ and then you remember hearing that inner voice that directed you differently?  You ignored it or over road it with a statement of logic as to not do it.

So we say, dear ones, next time you point your finger of shame at that liar, remember the other fingers are pointing at you.

Forgive the Person, Forgive the Pain

So you want to heal but you do not want to forgive, and we say this is not possible for it is you who are holding onto the pain by not letting go and forgiving what is not wanted.

To some this does not make sense for why should YOU be the one to forgive, when it is THEM who hurt you?  You have not come to understand that no one, no matter how wrong they were, can hurt you unless you allow them to.  This being said, it is you that has to not allow this pain to continue or not to.  The only way to do this is by forgiving that who has hurt you.

We would like to be clear that in forgiving, you are not accepting that which hurt you, you are letting go of the pain and separating your emotions from the situation.  We are funny how we get mad that we have been hurt without knowing that in the ‘getting mad’ we are fueling the pain.  Anger is Pain, Resentment is Pain, Revenge is Pain, Helplessness is Pain, for these are all Fear Based Emotions.