It has been said that honesty is the best policy, but who follows that? We all lie, at one time or another we have all told a lie. We can cover it up calling it a little white lie, a pity lie, tricking or even teasing but in the end it is still a lie.
Others will say they cannot trust someone who lies, but all this means is that they are putting a label on the person they never really trusted in the first place. For these same people will forgive or cover up lies from others who they want to trust.
The most interesting lie of them all is when you lie to yourselves. It happens so fast that it is easily (and purposely) forgotten almost immediately. These lies are the ones in which we hear our inner guidance, but are not ready to change to that outcome, so you tell yourself something to cover it up.
Have you ever had what you call ‘bad luck’ and then you remember hearing that inner voice that directed you differently? You ignored it or over road it with a statement of logic as to not do it.
So we say, dear ones, next time you point your finger of shame at that liar, remember the other fingers are pointing at you.
What is confidence? Why do you think it is beneficial? People admire those who are confident but is that because they know the direction they want to head toward and are doing so or is it because we have been taught that a confident person is what is admirable?
Confidence is overrated. It is the knowing that you are where you want to be and we say we are never where we want to be. We are always growing and experiencing life. Now being happy where you are in life is always beneficial for being happy creates more of what you like.
So next time you admire a confident person, break down what it is you like knowing the joy of confidence is the only portion which is admirable.
We find ourselves in a fearful situation and our first reaction is to worry, and we ask why worry about the unknown? And why worry about that which you can not change? The reason we worry is because life has taken us on to a directions which we are not comfortable in and we think it is just going to become worse. This is where we disagree, you know for you can choose to change it.
Why believe something you do not know, is going to become worse? Why believe anything other than figuring out how to feel better? There are choices in everything you do, why choose failure?
What we focus on is the direction we will head, it is inevitable you know. What you think about is what is to come, for we see nothing else. We say focus on the possibilities that pleases you not that which worries you. For you will find a way to change your circumstance rather it be for the worse or the better. It is always your choice.
March 4th, 2012 – Losing a Loved One if Very Difficult
Losing a loved one is very difficult for many. There is emptiness where life with this person used to exist. It seems unfair and sometimes scary. The pain can be so great that it is hard to go on with your normal life. We ask you to feel the pain but not let the pain take over. Grief is an important part of life. We need it to balance our emotions, but some allow it to take over their feelings and then can easily become lost in the pain. When this happens, it is hard to reason and learn to live again.
Stop and think why you are so sad for it is not for the loved one but for your pain. Your loved one wants you to be happy again, they want you to move on. It is you who chooses not to balance your loss with your life. We are not saying to be happy when we know you are not, we are asking you to feel the grief and then move on. There is so much and so many in everyone’s life to be appreciative for. Bring yourself to focus on those things a little each day. Do something or talk to someone who brings a smile to your face and little by little you will learn to live again. This also will allow your loved one to work with your from the other side.
Life has changed for you and it will continue to change for this creates growth, knowledge and experience. Life will never be the same, we know but life can be good again.
Life is difficult we know, but this is because you have been misguided in life. There is always a choice and most will choose what they have been taught by others instead of what they desire.
Desires are surrounded by fear, fear of the unknown, fear of judgments, fear of failure, fear of embarrassment and fear of making a mistake. Tell me dear one, what do all these fears have in common? These fears are based off of other’s opinions of you.
When you are ready to follow your desires more than you want to please other’s opinions, well then you no longer have anything to lose and life becomes not only easier but more desirable.