Why Do Relationships Hurt?
Many people have hurt pasts that they are trying to correct in future relationships. This actually is not a bad thing because with each failed relationship, more is learned and less of the past history is the current issue. In other words, you are creating new hurts (though similar to the past and original hurt) that are more relevant and with this you are also creating the need to correct it.
This is why you see people who seem to find the same issues in each relationship they have. Yes, they usually get a little better each time but the “hurt” from the issues tend to feel the same. This is because the pain you feel is never due to the person you are with, it always has to do with you perception of them. No one can ever cause you pain unless you are willing to accept being hurt.
